TV Show about Parental Alienation
Affair led to mother murdering her own kids
Days after buying another woman Valentine's Day flowers, a Sydney father came home to find a trail of blood leading him to the bodies of his two young children lying next to their mother, a court has been told.
Australian Associated Press
Aug 24 2009
The woman had given the couple's three-year-old daughter and four-year-old son rat poison and an unidentified pink liquid before smothering them and killing them, court papers said.
She then tried to take her own life, the NSW Supreme Court was told.
Doctors agree the mother, from Canley Heights in Sydney's west, was suffering from "major depression" when she poisoned her children on February 19 last year.
She has pleaded not guilty to the two murders by reason of mental illness.
As her judge-alone trial began, the mother's lawyer told Justice Clifton Hoeben his client didn't think life was worth living after learning about her husband's affair. More..
Behind the angry Baldwin verbal attack
The San Diego Union-Tribune, San Diego, California, U.S.A., By Jeffery M. Leving and Glenn Sacks, April 27, 2007
Alec Baldwin's angry, over-the-top voice-mail tirade at his daughter, Ireland, was clearly wrong. Unfortunately, while we've been wringing our hands over how bad Baldwin is, we're ignoring the case's central truth; Kim Basinger's well-documented parental alienation campaign against Baldwin.
Parental alienation often arises after a divorce, as one angry, vengeful parent tries to turn the children against the other parent, destroying the loving bonds the children and the target parent once enjoyed. Baldwin claims that his outburst occurred in the context of Basinger alienating Ireland and trying to drive him out of his daughter's life.
This claim appears to have merit. In fact, Basinger's own mother has publicly condemned her behavior. Ann Basinger, Ireland's grandmother, calls Baldwin a “wonderful” parent, and says: “My heart is sad for Ireland. She's the one that's suffering the most. All this is killing her. I think Kim has tried to alienate Ireland from her father. Alec loves his daughter with all his heart. He really is a family man . . . I hate what [Kim] is doing.”
Journalist Pat Lalama, who has covered the Baldwin-Basinger divorce and custody battle since their break-up seven years ago, recently told CNN: “In all the years that I have covered celebrities . . . this was one of the meanest exchanges between two human beings . . . some of the things that Kim Basinger was demanding, in order to humiliate him, were outrageous . . . [Baldwin] was provoked by an angry ex, which I'm guessing is probably the case here, [and] he went over the edge.”
Earlier this year Baldwin charged that Basinger has: violated his visitation rights; interfered with his phone access to Ireland; and not notified him when she was going to be out of town so Baldwin could care for Ireland himself rather than leaving her with Basinger's baby-sitters.
In court Baldwin produced messages that Basinger gave Ireland before Ireland's visits with Baldwin. The messages, which were printed on chocolate bar wrappers, implied that Basinger had been mistreated by Baldwin and that Basinger and Ireland are aligned together.
Despite this, Baldwin has made legitimate attempts to placate Basinger in the best interests of their child. In November he even went on Larry King Live and praised Basinger, telling King, “I think she's a great mother, yes, a good mom.”
In the long run, the apparent decision to leak the tape to the media, in violation of a court order, is far more damaging to Ireland than Baldwin's angry tirade. Had the tape not been leaked, Baldwin would have apologized to Ireland, and the incident would have been soon forgotten. Instead, Ireland will be embarrassed by the incident for the rest of her childhood.
One tactic frequently employed by alienating mothers is to try to provoke the father into blowing his top by interfering with his relationship with his children. When he does, mom pretends to be scared of “his awful temper,” and gets the father's already limited role in his daughter's life reduced. Baldwin was foolish to play into Basinger's hands.
As the target parent of parental alienation, Baldwin
is in a very difficult and painful situation. John
Stossel, in his new book Myths, Lies and Downright
Stupidity: Get Out the Shovel“ Why Everything You Know
is Wrong, describes an example of parental alienation
he filmed for his TV show:
“We videotaped one such heartbreaking scene. A divorced
father went to see his five kids for what he thought
would be a full-day visit. He was entitled to that,
under court order, and the court also ordered the mother
not to discourage the children from spending time with
their father. But she clearly had poisoned his
children's minds against him. The father just stood
outside his ex-wife's house and begged his children,
'Would you like to go out with me today?' 'No,' said one
kid after another. Then the mother ordered the kids back
into her house.”
“What comes through on the tape is the unbridled satisfaction of the mother and the helplessness of the father.”
Can any parent reading this honestly say that, were they in this father's shoes, they would never blow their top?
Leving is a family law attorney. He is the author of Divorce Wars: A Field Guide to the Winning Tactics, Preemptive Strikes, and Top Maneuvers When Divorce Gets Ugly. Sacks writes frequently on men's and fathers' issues.
